My hope is that this piece of writing might help you throughout the holiday season as we all experience more social situations and challenges.

Many relationships transformed over the past twenty months. Have you noticed that you naturally gravitate toward people who make you feel good about yourself and the planet?

It’s time to let go of the relationships that do not serve you and only drain you.

This can be challenging…

…and also incredibly liberating.

It’s a sweet way to “design” your life.

We are not the same people that we were twenty years ago, ten years ago, five years ago, or even one year ago.

As a result, all types of relationships — romantic partnerships, friendships, business colleagues — constantly go through the cycle of death and birth in very small, subtle ways.

But how do you know if a relationship has completed its cycle so you can come to terms with the fact that it really could be time to let it go and move on?

It’s tough.

If your encounters with another human leave you feeling frustrated, depleted or lifeless on an ongoing basis, that is a red flag. You might feel it as a sense of heaviness in your chest or confusion in your brain.

If you continue to feel unseen, unheard or weighed down by the other’s way of being or negativity, it is probably time to put the relationship to rest.

Here’s a tip for something you can do once you identify a relationship that is not serving your life.

You can say,

“I need to take a break from our friendship/relationship. I need space to see if how we communicate serves the greater good of my life.”

It is probably one of the hardest things anyone can say to another human.

However, sharing what is true in your heart can really contribute to a more stable mental state.

In addition, I also suggest:

• Creating a simple ritual to let go – it can be as simple as closing your eyes, visualizing the person, thanking them for times in the past, and saying goodbye.
• Letting yourself grieve – let yourself feel the sadness. Allow yourself to slow down and reflect on this transitioning relationship.
• Going about your daily life – remember to focus on the things in life that must take place in order for it to flow smoothly.
• Seeking out those that give life – cultivate relationships with people who are important to you, uplift you, inspire you, and are available to support you in times of need. Be selective!

Surround yourself with people who are a valuable contribution to your life. Remember, energy flows where attention goes.

Let me know how I can help you design this important aspect of your life.